There's that person

There is that person you will never get over no matter how long it has been.


These people messed you up, somehow you can never get over them. I'm sure I'll get a lot of "I agree"s. But that's not what I want to talk about. What about us? The ones after That Person? It hurts to be in the shadow, it breaks our hearts to feel we can't be as special. And what about us? The one who is a That Person to someone. But wait, I am that "You" in the above quote. What about me? Okay, I'll try to keep what I want to say as simple so that I won't bore or scare you with a very long entry.

The ones after That Person.

Oh please just get over it already, there's nothing you can do. That Person will always stay in your boyfriend's / girlfriend's heart. There's nothing much you can do but to accept that whatever happened in the past, has already happened. It's a shame you can't meet your bf/gf any way sooner, but hey destiny has dealt its card. What you can do now:

1. Be understanding.
2. Don't be too pushy about asking your bf/gf to forget That Person.
3. Have faith and trust. After all, they are with you now.

The ones who are That Person to someone.

Was it your fault before that you broke up with him/her? Even if it wasn't your fault, your time is over. Don't go on and test the water with that person anymore, especially when they have moved on. Here's what you can do:

1. Don't go fuggin flirting with your exes anymore. There are several reasons why you shouldn't do it: You are embarrassing yourself, you will hurt your ex's chances to move on (unless that's what you plan to do; tie that person so that they will die alone when they're old), you will hurt your ex's new gf/bf feelings if she/he found out that their bf/gf is still flirting with you.
2. Move on with your life, it's okay to say hi once in a while, like, once every two or three months, not every other day.
3. Never ever attempt to say "I still love you", "I miss you", "I wish my current bf/gf is like you".

I am the one that can't get over my ex

Well, listen. Try to move on. God has plan for all of us. Maybe that person is not good enough for you, that's why God doesn't want them to be The One. Time will heal. Remember, if you still live in memories it will overcast the reality, because as human, you tend to remember all the nice thing about That Person. You tend to forget that he/she stinks sometimes, or they are very very emotional and irrational most of the time, or they have nasty habit like scratching their ass and then bite the nail to get the taste, or THAT THEY BROKE YOUR HEART. So what can you do?:

1. Try to go out and meet new people, or reconnect with old friends. Don't spend most of your time alone, your mind will play a trick and make you think like you NEED That Person.
2. Remove anything that can ever remind you to them. They don't mean any shit any more to you coz they have a life of their own now. Delete those stupid messages in your phone and email, remove their photos from your Facebook, iPods or anything that you will see daily. I mean it.
3. Take charge of your life, never ever listen to the evil voices inside your head.

If you have moved on (or so you thought), try to concentrate on your new love life. Remember, you have made a commitment with this gorgeous new person, don't take them for granted or ever wished that this new person will "Replace" That Person. Imagine how they will feel if they know that you still can't get over That Person and that they are just a "melepaskan batuk di tangga".

1. Take whatever happened in your past as a lesson. Learn from it, be a better person. Think back of both the negative and positive experience you've had.
2. Try to learn, love and embrace this new person. God has given you a chance to fix your life, then it will be a waste if you can't learn to appreciate this new person. There's always a reason for everything that happened. Believe me, even though your stories were painful, every cloud has a silver lining. And you've got your silver lining now, make the best of this.
3. Protect your new one from your heartache towards That Person. Every and each person in this world is unique, so don't go and stereotype every girl/boy you are going out with, with That Person and bash this new person just because you didn't get what you want from That Person.


P/S: It's nothing personal. I am writing this as an advice to myself. and to you. and you over there. and you there, too.

Theme song for this entry: There's that person you'll never get over no matter how long it's been by Zolof the Rock and Roll Destroyer